http://buildingmywings.com/2009/11/14/its-not-nice-to-be-nice/ "You've got to jump off cliffs all the time and build your wings on the way down." - Ray Bradbury Fri, 01 Jul 2011 16:38:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://buildingmywings.com/2009/11/14/its-not-nice-to-be-nice/#comment-111 Eric Wed, 18 Nov 2009 00:07:59 +0000 http://buildingmywings.com/?p=276#comment-111 Of course it's hard to tell whether someone is engaging in dysfunctional conflict avoidance, or simply rationalizing what is convenient to them with the idea that it avoids hurting another person. Equally destructive but one is a little douchier than the other. I'm inclined to be less charitable and think the latter about ex #1 up there. Of course it’s hard to tell whether someone is engaging in dysfunctional conflict avoidance, or simply rationalizing what is convenient to them with the idea that it avoids hurting another person. Equally destructive but one is a little douchier than the other. I’m inclined to be less charitable and think the latter about ex #1 up there.

]]> http://buildingmywings.com/2009/11/14/its-not-nice-to-be-nice/#comment-105 Niki Tue, 17 Nov 2009 04:31:32 +0000 http://buildingmywings.com/?p=276#comment-105 I think you nailed it when you said "not causing conflict that might leave me feeling bad about myself." I think you nailed it when you said “not causing conflict that might leave me feeling bad about myself.”

]]> http://buildingmywings.com/2009/11/14/its-not-nice-to-be-nice/#comment-103 Lynn Tue, 17 Nov 2009 03:38:53 +0000 http://buildingmywings.com/?p=276#comment-103 Sing it. Also, you know what? You don't have to be an a-hole just because you're delivering "bad news". Just be honest and respectful. It's not that hard. Sing it. Also, you know what? You don’t have to be an a-hole just because you’re delivering “bad news”. Just be honest and respectful. It’s not that hard.

]]> http://buildingmywings.com/2009/11/14/its-not-nice-to-be-nice/#comment-102 Kim Tue, 17 Nov 2009 01:22:49 +0000 http://buildingmywings.com/?p=276#comment-102 Makes me feel like they are saying "I don't want to hurt your feelings so I'll just ruin your life. Thanks pal!" Good blog Fawn. Makes me feel like they are saying “I don’t want to hurt your feelings so I’ll just ruin your life. Thanks pal!” Good blog Fawn.

]]> http://buildingmywings.com/2009/11/14/its-not-nice-to-be-nice/#comment-101 marjorie Mon, 16 Nov 2009 15:29:52 +0000 http://buildingmywings.com/?p=276#comment-101 amen, sistah. amen, sistah.

]]> http://buildingmywings.com/2009/11/14/its-not-nice-to-be-nice/#comment-100 David Sun, 15 Nov 2009 21:18:57 +0000 http://buildingmywings.com/?p=276#comment-100 Nicely put! And I'm not just saying that to be, er, nice. Nicely put! And I’m not just saying that to be, er, nice.

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