Comments on: Putting the “end” in “friend” http://buildingmywings.com/2010/02/24/putting-the-end-in-friend/ "You've got to jump off cliffs all the time and build your wings on the way down." - Ray Bradbury Fri, 27 Aug 2010 00:02:04 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Dave Wieneke http://buildingmywings.com/2010/02/24/putting-the-end-in-friend/#comment-343 Dave Wieneke Sat, 20 Mar 2010 03:58:27 +0000 http://buildingmywings.com/?p=466#comment-343 Sometimes things find their right level. And for one I'm glad for it -- there's much to be said for this highwire act which is life, and I'm all for careening. Good for you, and sorry that an apparently nice person just bailed. You're a pal and have it going on. Smiles, dw Sometimes things find their right level. And for one I’m glad for it — there’s much to be said for this highwire act which is life, and I’m all for careening.

Good for you, and sorry that an apparently nice person just bailed. You’re a pal and have it going on.

Smiles,
dw

]]> By: Claudia http://buildingmywings.com/2010/02/24/putting-the-end-in-friend/#comment-339 Claudia Mon, 08 Mar 2010 06:59:35 +0000 http://buildingmywings.com/?p=466#comment-339 Bravo Fawn!! You have struck the exact right attitude, in my humble opinion. And I for one know how hard won this is for you. Rarely does someone want to perform "make overs" on others who does not have hidden agendas. It's quite narcissistic really - covered in the warm blanket of generosity. It doesn't mean the info isn't good or valid, but needing to mentor, coach or guide someone unbidden is a strange and suspicious thing. We could analyze him for days but this is YOUR story and YOUR response to him, whatever his motivation, is what's the real issue here. Bravo Fawn!! You have struck the exact right attitude, in my humble opinion. And I for one know how hard won this is for you. Rarely does someone want to perform “make overs” on others who does not have hidden agendas. It’s quite narcissistic really – covered in the warm blanket of generosity. It doesn’t mean the info isn’t good or valid, but needing to mentor, coach or guide someone unbidden is a strange and suspicious thing. We could analyze him for days but this is YOUR story and YOUR response to him, whatever his motivation, is what’s the real issue here.

]]> By: theodicy http://buildingmywings.com/2010/02/24/putting-the-end-in-friend/#comment-336 theodicy Thu, 25 Feb 2010 00:46:31 +0000 http://buildingmywings.com/?p=466#comment-336 Oh wow. Interesting to read more about the context. I suspect he became very afraid of what he saw as a growing intimacy. I've seen this over and over again, usually in romantic contexts - haven't we all? but this one's a bit weird. Anyway, I could blab on for hours, but I wanted to tell you that I sympathize with so much of what you say and that from my end, this is TOTALLY his issue. I'm sorry it happened to you. The writer part of me thinks, wow, this is an intriguing tangle, what's the backstory? The friend part thinks, you wanna come closer, buddy? I got a boot with your name on it. Sigh. Well, feel free to elaborate. Oh wow. Interesting to read more about the context.

I suspect he became very afraid of what he saw as a growing intimacy. I’ve seen this over and over again, usually in romantic contexts – haven’t we all? but this one’s a bit weird.

Anyway, I could blab on for hours, but I wanted to tell you that I sympathize with so much of what you say and that from my end, this is TOTALLY his issue.

I’m sorry it happened to you. The writer part of me thinks, wow, this is an intriguing tangle, what’s the backstory? The friend part thinks, you wanna come closer, buddy? I got a boot with your name on it.

Sigh. Well, feel free to elaborate.

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